For the People Pleasers

I was once told that some people may like me now, but if I were to actually move in with them, they would see who I really am and wouldn't be able to stand me.

I realized that this is what terrified me.

Challenged by this book (Succulent Wild Woman by Sark), I decided to grab the bait and bring this business to God. 

What about this is scary? That if people are around me too long, they will lose interest? Yes, in part. If I am not entertaining or pleasing to people constantly, then I am not worthy of love. And since I've seen and felt many times that I can't be pleasing to everyone, then my being does not possess anything loveable. And that is one of my biggest fears - not being worth anything and not having nor being able to give love.

Wow, even writing that out, I can see how that is terrible logic... Amazing how just naming things helps to process and bring light to core things that affect lots of our anxieties/thoughts/actions and seem insuperable.

But let's continue investigating this darkness and get out all of those pesky little roots.

I began talking with God about it. There is a reason this is scary and a valid fear. People do tire of other people. People do have qualities that make you want to run away and just forget them. I have these qualities, and even worse, I've seen myself react to people in this way... So, what the heck, God? We're just kind of screwed? 

Then I felt Him say something like 'You're right. People do get bored with each other. There is misunderstanding. It is impossible to fully know and fully love another person. Nobody could ever fully know you and love you. But I do. That is why it is so important to love with My Love.'

I could never truly love anyone out of my own will. I've tried. It's very self-centered, and I get too anxious over silly things, there is no room for grace (especially for myself), and my value and sense of self worth is placed on other people who actually don't have it all figured out either. 

But when we value and love people because God values and loves people, the love is true, pure, life giving, and firmly rooted. It won't depend on emotions, it won't depend on stature nor time. It will see the hope and rejoice and work together to share and bring Love back to the ultimate source. 

To do's:

-When feeling anxious about situations - check in with God and see what's up.

-When wanting to back away/avoid people, check with God's perspective

-Listen and follow where He leads, not what I feel like doing nor even what other people want from me. 

God, Your love is crazy. I don't understand it, but I am SO grateful to be a part of it. 

You frikken rule.

 I like You a lot.